This is the final blog post in the series of What holds us back. The previous blog posts looked at fear (of failure and success) and lack of confidence, which deal with elements on a mindset and cognition level. But for coaching to really work, we also need to engage at a behavioural level and that is what this week's post is all about.
Lack of time can be the most cited reason why people don't make progress on their goals. In my experience, lack of time comes down to three main things - prioritisation, planning and organisation.
I recommend to most of my clients the Eat That Frog book by Brain Tracy. Firstly, just for the first words in the book where he talks about how you will NEVER going to get caught up and get to the bottom of that to-do list. I think acknowledging that it is impossible to do everything is a really big step in re-thinking how you organise your life. If you can't ever do everything, what can you get rid of then?
List all of the things that fill your time on a regular basis and then prioritise them. Does the time you spend doing things correlate to your prioritisation of them? If having a tidy house comes 15th on your priority list, but you spend more time doing that than on things that are 10-14 on your priority list, something there is wrong.
You know why a lot of people spend more time than they would rationally like on things like keeping the house clean? Because it is a good distraction from other things that take more mental energy. I know that my flat never looked so clean as when I was writing my Masters Dissertation. If you want to invest more time in writing rather than cleaning, you have to do one of two things. Either decide and stick to a set amount of time for cleaning and tidying and then accept the mess that there is when you come to the end of that time. Or work from somewhere else. A lot of people that work from home find having a set space in the house can help them avoid the distraction of the ironing pile. I tend to mainly avoid the living room in my house when I work from home. Mainly because that way I avoid the temptation of 'just having a quick tidy up', but also because I like to keep that space associated with just leisure activities. If you find that you are constantly doing housework instead of things that you consciously prioritise above that, then y